Being on disability and dating
But there are some experiences that are frustrating.I went to a matchmaker recently because I wanted to know all my options.Through the plus-size group, I started exploring things like kink.I tried to include my husband sometimes but he was uncomfortable.I started going to their events, but not with my husband.When I married him, I was so young—24—that I didn't have a sense of who I was sexually.
When it was a beta site in 1995, and I was 22, I met someone on I was this geek girl who liked to hang out in the computer lab and talk online because it was different and new. I had experienced some trauma and abuse in my past and that affected me sexually.
I was overwhelmed with learning to adapt to my new body, which doesn't have sensation in some areas; paralysis affects my right hip, leg, and foot.
It wasn't until my child got a little older that I started feeling like I wanted to explore again what it meant to be a sexual person. We are family, but ultimately we realized it was healthier for us to not be married to each other. It's worse if you're scared to talk about my body because then it makes me feel like I have something to apologize for or that I need to make you feel better about it. Don't ask for my medical records, but ask if you have a question.
It made me feel like I wasn't worth as much, and this was from somebody who's a professional. Now, thanks to a lot of therapy and the right medication, I am the happiest I've been in my life.
I'm dating, and I would like to be in a long-term committed relationship with someone. Do you have a fascinating sex life you'd want to share with ELLE?